Sanitywarp.org:: Diary of a Trichster

The extension cap has moved further back and is exposing the crown, which I’ve already caused a lot of damage to.  The snow DID indeed cause my appointment last week to be cancelled, and my only other option was to wait an entire week to schedule for the following Wednesday.  Thanks a lot, New England.

In this time I’ve been particularly bad.  I haven’t seen my temporary therapist in some time now and I don’t much see the point of even going to see her at this point as my regular therapist is almost back from her leave.  I will probably see the temporary one more time in the interim.   And hopefully my appointment this Weds will be kept, although it looks like we’re getting even more snow soon. Wonderful!    If not for my appointment getting cancelled last week, none of this severe crown damage would have happened. I am very upset about it.  =(   It’s going to take a very long time for that to grow back now.

The hair on my sides is entirely missing again, as it usually is, but thankfully the extension cap does a good job at hiding this.  The pain and soreness of my scalp is a depressing reminder of the tearing and ripping ..  which I did some of… but usually, it was the singular pulls, and that’s really what kept me locked into doing it for so long.  Everything about it…  the feeling of the hair.  The pleasurable feeling when the hair was pulled… the sound it makes.  Somehow even the sound is good right now.  And of course the biting of the follicle.I just try to remember that right now I’m in a pulling state … and that for awhile, my mind was completely removed from all of this and in a more normal state.  I will be able to get back there again, but I’m going to need the help I was getting before.  And until then, all I can do is try and hide it.  =/

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The disease is once again spreading.  The extension cap has become loose on top and I’ve been able to get at the crown.  :(    It is very bare in some places now.

Getting the cap re-sewn on Wednesday unless the snow storm causes the salon to be closed… I really hope not…

Kind of depressed.  Wanting this month to go by faster so my usual therapist is back from leave and I can resume work with her..

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Still doing poorly.  The urges are frequent and usually very strong.  The side areas on both sides are now very bare… once again.  The only reason the crown isn’t in the same state is because of the weave cap covering the top.  It’s itching now as I speak.  I hate wearing these things, but without them… I’d have no hair.

and so the struggle continues.  The depression regarding the situation is said to make me more prone to pulling episodes, so it’s like a vicious cycle.  I need to re-find that motivation that I had so much of for awhile, not so long ago.  Quitting hair pulling is such hard work.  Although, I’ve taken note of the fact that for me, a lot of the temptation of pulling has to do with biting the hair follicle afterwards.  I’ve been aware of how much I liked this aspect of pulling all along, but didn’t stop to think of how much less I want to do it, if I CAN’T bite the follicle afterwards.  The follicle itself is such an obsession.  The way it looks… the plumpness of a “good” one… the little pop it makes when you bite it… and sometimes, the irregular ones… with a red tip (that no one seems to know exactly what it is…) that makes the follicle harder and pop more when it’s bitten. It’s like a sick kind of “prize”.  (If the hair is white, follicle or not, that seems to be another reinforcement of the behavior…as it’s another irregularity)

This whole part of the ritual is quite powerful.  I’ve tried gum before but it’s too easy to push it to the back of the mouth to bite with the front teeth.  As silly as this sounds.. during Halloween time, I had my custom vampire fangs in, the kind that just fit over the two front teeth… and it made it impossible to close my mouth all the way while they were in.  There were several times I went to pull a hair and then stopped, mid-reach, thinking, “I can’t bite it…”  and this actually stopped me.   I told my temporary doctor about this and she very seriously suggested that I wear the teeth more often, when I am at home alone and most vulnerable to pulling.

so… I guess I’m going to try that although it’ll take some getting used to.  I need a crutch until I can find my strength again. =/    gloves help too… but only for awhile until my hand gets unbearably sweaty and I take them off…

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I’m sort of back at the level I was at …maybe not before I started treatment, but maybe about half of that severity.  It seems that I’ll have a few days of consistant pulling, and then a few days without much.  I have definitely taken a dip though - which is a little depressing considering that just over a month ago, I felt like I’d finally become “better”.

I’m fairly convinced it had to do with having to chance doctors…  mine had to take a pregnancy leave, but she’ll be back from that in Feb.  It seemed like so far away before,  but now its only like 5 weeks away.  I haven’t been getting a whole lot out of seeing this new person, so I may just take a break from going until Feb anyway.  I’m sort of in a rut from this, but there’s a bunch of changes taking place in my life soon including moving, so I’m trying not to be too hard on myself.  I still have a lot of growth on my crown, which is currently covered by the extensions… although, in a few more weeks its gonna be time to get them redone and I’m going to have to deal with the embarassment of going back to the hair salon and having the woman notice the bald spots.  I may try and find another salon to go to, but this one knows the type of work I need done and has done it well before…so I’ll probably go back there… just going to be embarrassing… =/

eh..

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The streak is over.  Actually, it ended the day after I made my last post, sadly enough.   A combination of things … environment, bored/restlessness … and I succumbed.  There have been a few bad days since then.  Usually triggered by stress or in one case, anger.  I’m getting the extensions put back in later this week sometime.  I was so happy about the thickness of my hair, but I’ve already made a few thin spots on the sides again…. c’est la vie.  At least I made it about two weeks this time.  That’s an improvement over the last time, which was about a week pull-free … several months back… the key seems to be to abstain as long as possible… once you’re back into it… you’re back into it and it’s really hard to stop.  So… hopefully… better luck next time around…  now, if I can just get it stabilized again before too much time passes…

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